Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Tips Tuesday: How to be an Ally

What is an ally?
Yours truly, prepping for a faire

According to Wikipedia
A straight ally or heterosexual ally is a heterosexual and cisgender person who supports equal civil rights, gender equality, LGBT social movements, and challenges homophobia, biphobia and transphobia. Despite this, some people who meet this definition do not identify themselves as straight allies. A straight ally believes that LGBT people face discrimination and thus are socially and economically disadvantaged. They aim to use their position as heterosexual or cisgender individuals in a society focused on heteronormativity to fight homophobia, biphobia and transphobia.

What can you do?

  • Listen and be open minded
  • Be inclusive
  • Don't be afraid to stand up in the face of prejudice and off-color jokes
  • Confront and examine your own prejudices and beliefs
  • Volunteer at supportive organizations and events
  • Believe in and fight for equal rights
  • Be honest
  • Be aware of how you act when you visit LGBT specific spaces like gay bars
  • "I just think of you as a person, the fact that you're XYZ doesn't even matter to me" is a no-no. We're proud of who we are, but saying that something that in certain places and with certain people can put our lives in danger is insignificant, while we're sure you mean well, is mean.
  • Don't expect us to always be strong, perfect, and inspirational. WE ARE HUMAN JUST LIKE YOU
  • NEVER out someone who isn't ready to come out
  • Ask about pronouns
  • Don't assume anything. Gender identity, sexual orientation, pronouns. 
  • Our sexual preferences, genitals, etc are none of your business. If we want to tell you, we will. If you're curious, ask if you can ask us some questions first. Don't just just dive in and ask "who the man is" or "what we have in our pants"
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